Impress Someone this Valentines Day
How confidence can improve your dating skills
Regardless of whether you are searching for love using online dating sites or by more traditional methods, what you really need to do is to improve your level of confidence. Some things are easy to change, whereas others will need a little bit of practice. Take a moment to read the following info so that you start dating in the right direction!
When you are confident, it shines through and others can feel it which attracts people to you. If you act as though you lack confidence, other people will react to that – often badly. The way you think often leads to how you feel. How you feel leads to what actions you decide to take. These actions get certain results.
While you're busy wondering what people think of you, they're busy wondering what you think of them.
Use the 'SET' plan – smile, eye contact, touch – which picks up on the three elements confident people typically demonstrate.
• Smile and you'll seem relaxed.
• Hold eye contact and you'll seem sure of yourself.
• Touch either with a firm handshake or a reassuring arm and you'll seem in control.
Remember confidence is learned, not inherited. So if you lack confidence, it isn't permanent; you can still change.
So to recap…
• Smile - It makes you look open, friendly and confident no matter how you feel.
• Maintain eye contact, too little eye contact communicates shyness or a lack of interest.
• Control your gesture; too many physical gestures make you look nervous.
• Control your posture, face people when talking with them, stand upright and lean in.
Just before that important big date, relax, stand tall, hold your head up, relax your shoulders and stand with your weight evenly balanced over each foot. Smile to raise your spirits. If your mouth is dry, bite your tongue to release saliva (it really works). Take a deep breath – and go for it!
Remember this is a two way relationship. If you feel confident and resourceful any challenge will be met with positive and confident thoughts. Control your emotions and challenge your thoughts.
To be confident, think confident.
